You must be lost

well, it's not that I haven't shown him the numbers when they're available, it's that we're so early in planning, there really aren't many numbers to show. I'm still in research mode for the most part. Just in the past couple of weeks have I had some realistic estimates in a couple of areas. When I've got decisions to make, I'll definitely be making them with him (whether he likes it or not :P ). It's just that since he's not the primary one working on it, it's kind of in the back of his mind, so he's thinking "save for digital projector" while I'm thinking "save for wedding". The only money we've spent so far (and that wasn't our money) is the deposit for the lodge, and that was a unanimous decision. I have given him my estimates for my dress and rentals, because those are the only two that I really have a good idea on how much they'll cost. Things like food, flowers, decor, cake. . . I have no idea yet, but should have it all hammered out by the end of the summer (that's when I'll do my shopping around).